Three different stories

I have not had processed sugar in a week and yesterday I happened to have a raisin. Being such a concentrated amount of sweetness in this tiny fruit, the sugar hit felt so intense that I could only eat 2-3 before my body decided it was too much.

I had a dear friend who distanced herself from our friendship for personal reasons (it’s her story to share so I’m not going into details). I grieved our sisterhood and the beautiful moments we shared with our families. Recently, we had our first conversation in a long time and I discovered that our needs are so different now – and probably were all along but I couldn’t see it in my attachment to the relationship – that a renewed relationship would not offer the level of authenticity that I need.

I was working on a project with a team I had worked with before. The big vision and goals initially shared changed over the course of a year, ending up reactions to a mentality of scarcity and fear of loss. I had to sit with myself and decide. Beyond the attachment I feel for the team and the initial vision, is this energy we are working with right now representing me? The realization was that it’s not something I want to live and act out of.

Our past dictates our present

By now, I think you know what I’m talking about. Even though we have developed or inherited fears and coping mechanisms to safeguard us, we can grow out of them and form new habits that are healthy and life sustaining.

90% of the time we think the same thoughts we thought the day before. A thought that you think over and over again becomes a belief. The process of change requires becoming conscious of your unconscious thoughts. Just because you have that thought, it doesn’t necessarily mean it’s the truth.”

Joe Dispenza

Our present reality is a product of the past: of the thoughts we’ve developed over time, the messages we have heard, the events that happened, the environment we are in or were raised in. And that past has taught us to disconnect from ourself and isolate, or accept less than our worth.

Do you remember when you were a child and everything seemed possible? When you were full of ideas and you had all the answers. The answers are still in you. You just need a moment to pause so you can become aware of where you are and where you want to be. It is possible to create new habits and beliefs.

It is possible to think greater than your present reality, and history books are filled with names of people who have done so.

Dispenza, Joe. Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself. Hay House.